Persistence – The key to A Happy Aging Life

Having trouble making new friends?

Well, these little bits of advice I got off a friendship card will certainly give you a few tips on making new friends. Keep these in mind as you go out and soon you will find lots of new TRUE friends. Good Luck!

  1. Don’t worry about knowing people, just make yourself worth knowing.
  2. Be friendly with the folks you know. If it weren’t for them you would be a total stranger.
  3. Friends are those who speak to you after others don’t.
  4. The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail and not his tongue.
  5. The way to have friends is to be willing to lose some arguments.
  6. Deal with other’s faults as gently as if they were your own.
  7. A friend is a person who can step on your shoes without messing your shine.
  8. You will never have a friend if you must have one without faults.
  9. You can make more friends by being interested in them than trying to have them be interested in you.
  10. A real friend is a person who, when you’ve made a fool of yourself, lets you forget it.
  11. A friend is a person who listens attentively while you say nothing.

… and most important… A FRIEND IS A TREASURE!


As I begin this blog, I would be remiss if I did not thank all of my readers who have been calling and writing messages asking if I am doing well, and when the next blog will be sent.

One would think that a man who is closing in on his 88th birthday, would have a lot of time on his hands and have no problem finding time to do what he loves to do—share his thoughts about the journey of life by writing Blogs.

The fact is, I have never been busier: redeeming the errors I have made in life by accomplishing the goals I have set out for myself, as my journey nears its completion.

If I have learned one thing over these past 6 years, and I want to stress this as strongly as I can, it is that if one is to achieve success and enjoy the journey of life, regardless of the mental or physical impairments they may have, it is important to have goals and objectives and to persevere in achieving them.

When my beloved Anna passed away 4 years ago, I was 84 years of age. I decided to write a book honoring her memory and at the same time send a message to the world that the journey of life was filled with happiness and joy, suffering and pain, and that by doing the right things as you take that journey, it can be filled with fun.

I was determined to demonstrate that, by being persistent and using the tools that we have been given, we could succeed. I am most pleased to report that my book is a huge success. I am out speaking to major organizations about it several times a week, my story and the book are being featured in major national publications and I expect to have a major announcement about the book in the very near future.

I also found a way, even though I can no longer travel, to continue to share my knowledge of the food and beverage industry so that I could help others grow. As a result, I was able to help a major corporation design and build a multi-billion-dollar new facility which includes a major food & beverage facility.

My work as a trained Hospice Caregiver is continuing as I help terminally Ill individuals cope with their crisis. And my long time active membership in Rotary International, continues as I participate in the wonderful world and community projects of my Rotary Club of Woodland Hills, CA.

I also have just been asked to join the Board of Directors of the Glendale California International Film Festival and Book Festival.

And finally, as a resident of Fairwinds Assisted Living Center, a leisure care facility in the San Fernando Valley suburb of West Hills, California I do my part to help residents who have needs.

In case you missed my message it is simply this—–Life Only Ends When You Give Up Living It. Set Goals- And Be Persistent In Pursuing Them.


Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker and Community Leader. His Best Selling Book: “How to Prepare for Old Age” “Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” can be found on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Read his Blogs at

 If you would like to have Bernie Speak to your Group contact him at

 Bernie also recently wrote the History of the Restaurant Industry in the San Fernando Valley, for the Los Angeles Library Commission


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Does Your Age Make You Old?

I’ve had two bypass surgeries, a hip replacement, new knees, fought prostate cancer and diabetes.

I am half blind, can’t hear anything quieter than a jet engine,

Take 40 different medicines that make me dizzy, winded and subject to blackouts.

I have bouts of dementia and bad circulation.

I hardly feel my hands and feet anymore.

I can’t remember if I am 85 or 92.

I have lost all my friends but, thank God, I still have my driver’s license.


After a long busy and active summer I am now ready to begin writing my weekly blogs and I want to begin by expressing my anger at those in the media and political arena who are making it almost scandalous when a candidate for political office reaches their late 60’s and early 70’s and label them as old and question their ability to take on major responsibilities due to possible health problems.

My dear friends I am 87 years of age and I come from a family (both sides) in which most of my relatives lived—and some continue to do so actively busy and involved in life, into their late 80’s and 90’s.

In fact many of the world’s great business and political leaders of both sexes made great contributions to society in their later years.

Let me share this experience with you: in 1956 the Automobile Industry celebrated its 50th anniversary. I was in my mid teens and the President of my high school Student Body. My school principle Bill Stirton, who later went on to be the Dean of the University of Michigan, was selected to head the auto industry’s 50th anniversary celebration which included a major parade down the main street of Detroit, Michigan.

Bill asked me to help him with the event and specifically wanted me to contact Henry Ford and Connie Mack, both in their late 80’s, to ask them to run a 5 mile foot race down the middle of Woodward Avenue to highlight the event. I did so and spent hours with them and never before had worked with two more mentally and physically exciting elderly persons. And by the way, like most persons of their age, both have experienced health issues during life’s journey, which never stopped them from being active and productive lives.

Every day of my life, as I speak to groups about my book “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” I meet active persons in their 70’s, 80’ ad 90’s who are as smart and active and sharper than many half their age.

 The idea that, because of a number, you are considered incapable of handing complex jobs and contributing to society is just plain nuts. I am known as the 87 year old 17 year old kid and I know that you are only old when you stop using your knowledge and experience to do great things.

Bernie Otis is a well known Food, Beverage & Laundry Consultant, Writer, Speaker and Author whose Best Selling Book “How to prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

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The Magic Bank Account

A message to all of my Friends

It has been a while since I last sent a blog and that is because I have been busy out speaking about my book , doing community service, visiting the sick and aging and doing research for my upcoming book:

“As I Grow Old I Want to Remain Young”

I hope you have a great summer and want you to know my blogs will be going out weekly throughout the summer months. All my best to you —-I am doing great and have some exciting things to soon report.


My Rotary Friend Neal Goldman sent this to me and I wanted to share it with my Blog Readers


Imagine that you had won the Following *PRIZE* in a contest: Each morning your bank would deposit $86,400 In your private account for your use.

However, this prize has Rules:

1. Everything that you didn’t spend during each day would be taken away from you.

2. You may not simply transfer money into some other account.

3. You may only spend it.

4. Each morning upon awakening, The bank opens your account with another $86,400 for that Day.

5. The bank can end the game without warning; at any time, it can say, Game Over!”  It can close the account and you will not receive a new one.

What would you personally Do? You would buy anything and everything you wanted right? Not only for yourself, but for all the people you love and care for. Even for people you don’t know, because you couldn’t possibly spend it all on yourself, right? You would try to spend every penny, and use it all, because you knew it would be replenished in the morning, right?


Shocked ???………..YES! Each of us is already a winner Of this *PRIZE*…….We just can’t seem to see it.

The *PRIZE* is  TIME.

1. Each morning we awaken to Receive 86,400 seconds……As a gift of Life.

2. And when we go to sleep at night, any remaining time is not credited to us.

3. What we haven’t used up that day is forever lost.

4. Yesterday is forever gone.

5. Each morning the account is refilled, but the bank can dissolve your account at any time WITHOUT WARNING… So, what will YOU do with your 86,400 seconds? Those seconds are worth so much more than the same amount in dollars.

Think about it and remember to enjoy every second of your life, because time races by so much quicker than you think. So take care of yourself, be happy, love deeply and enjoy life! Here’s wishing you a wonderful and beautiful day.  Start spending…. “DON’T COMPLAIN ABOUT GROWING OLD!…………SOME PEOPLE DON’T GET THE PRIVILEGE!”

Bernie Otis

My best-selling book, How To Prepare for Old Age: Without Taking the Fun Out of Life is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble online.


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Putting Aging on the Back Burner

I recently picked a new primary care physician. After two visits and exhaustive lab tests, he said I was doing “fairly well” for my age.

A little concerned about that comment, I couldn’t resist asking him,” Do you think I’ll live to be 80?”

He asked, “Do you smoke tobacco or drink beer or wine?” “Oh no,” I replied. “I’m not doing drugs, either.” Then he asked, “Do you eat rib-eye steaks and barbecued ribs?” I said, “No, my other Doctor said that all red meat is very unhealthy.”

“Do you spend a lot of time in the sun, like playing golf, sailing, hiking, or bicycling?” He asked “No, I don’t,” I said.

He asked, “Do you gamble, drive fast cars, or have a lot of sex?” “No,” I said. “I don’t do any of those things.”

He looked at me and said, “Then why do you want to live to 80.”


As I continue to enjoy the fruits of my Best Selling Book “How to Prepare For Old Age—-Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” my inquisitive mind has been running at full speed and one day while driving to a speaking engagement I was struck with the idea of writing a sequel, but what would I call it???????

Then several days later a bolt of lightning struck me while I was speaking at a Kiwanis Club meeting where all of the guests were in their 70’s and 80’s. I watched and listened as they spoke of their active lives and the things they were doing, both as a Club and individually. Strangely, I never think of myself as being old because I am also so active and have little time to spend on such thoughts Ha! Ha!

So, as I said, I was struck by a bolt of lightning and the name for my sequel jumped into my brain —- Are you ready for this? “As I Grow Old I Want to Remain Young” I asked myself (we talk to each other a lot) “Self I said; why not share with others the kinds of things you and others like you have found exciting and the kinds of goals that inspire you and others to live an active life?”

 And so I began the process of researching stories about how persons have lived long and active lives and achieved great success as their bodies aged, but their minds stayed young. That is the story of my new, soon to be completed, writing and I wanted to be certain to warn you, my loyal readers of what the future has in store for you.

That is the Good News—Now the Bad News— (just kidding). Now that I have wet your appetite let me suggest that no matter your age, you can start staying young for the rest of your life while the bones slowly, having a mind of their own, keep whispering in your ears “Slow down you are getting old” Don’t you agree that that in itself is an accomplishment?

Seriously, it is never too early in life to think about where you want to be 3 months, 3 years, or more, from today. Yes, life’s circumstances change, but adapting to change is easy if you have given thought to what-ifs along the way.

When I was twenty four years old, married with a 6 month old son (the first of 3 children) I began to think seriously about my future life and career.  I came from a family where almost all of my elders i.e. aunts, uncles cousins lived very involved and active lives into their 90’s (both of my parents died at a young age) and I watched with admiration how gracefully they handled the aging process and wondered what I would do so that I could emulate them.

In the process I was introduced to an organization which intrigued me because it was a well known group which had members as young as early 20’s and others in their 90’s and all of them were committed to actively being involved in world, community and personal acts of goodness.

Somehow in the back of my mind there was a seed planted that told me that this is where my long life future belongs. I joined the Southfield, Michigan Rotary Club which was just forming and, but for a few years interlude when my career-related traveling prevented me from being involved, I enriched my life and stayed young and vibrant through my activities as a member, in a frequent leadership role and through the many friendships my membership has allowed me to make.

Please note: Over the years as I moved about in my career I have been a member of numerous Rotary Clubs including in Las Vegas where I served as President and now I am actively involved with the Rotary Club of Woodland Hills, California.

My dear friends, you too can find such an activity and more and extend your feelings of youth as the clock ticks.

Many thanks for being my loyal reader. I love all of you——keep your comments coming and read my books they are filled with valuable information about life.

Bernie Otis is a well known 87 year Writer, Speaker and Author. His Best Selling Book “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” is available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble as is his exciting Business Book  “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats—–And Other Things”


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The Loss of a Friend

Today’s Blog is a copy of a notice sent to me by my friend Judy Freier, which appeared last week in the London Times. It seems so appropriate to the current state of our society that I wanted to share it with you, my loyal readers.

“Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who
has been with us for many years.

No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were
long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He will be remembered as
having cultivated such valuable lessons as:

– Knowing when to come in out of the rain;
– Why the early bird gets the worm;
– Life isn’t always fair;
– And maybe it was my fault.

Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies (don’t spend
more than you can earn) and reliable strategies (adults, not children,
are in charge).

His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but
overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6-year-old boy
charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens
suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher
fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.

Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the
job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly

It declined even further when schools were required to get parental
consent to administer sun lotion or an aspirin to a student; but could
not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have
an abortion.

Common Sense lost the will to live as the churches became businesses;
and criminals received better treatment than their victims.

Common Sense took a beating when you couldn’t defend yourself from a
burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault.

Common Sense finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to
realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in
her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement.

Common Sense was preceded in death,
-by his parents, Truth and Trust,
-by his wife, Discretion,
-by his daughter, Responsibility,
-and by his son, Reason.

He is survived by his 5 stepbrothers;
– I Know My Rights
– I Want It Now
– Someone Else Is To Blame
– I’m A Victim
– Pay me for Doing Nothing

Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone”

Bernie Otis is a well known writer, speaker and author whose newest bestselling book. “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life is available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble” Please note that the National response to this writing is so overwhelming that Bernie is in demand as a speaker almost daily.

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The Three Worst Words in the Dictionary

**A special note to my readers; On Saturday April 16, 2016 I will be a featured speaker at the Los Angeles Daily News—a major Los Angeles newspaper– Health Fair at the Sportsmen’s Lodge Hotel in Studio City California.**


Marvin, was in the hospital on his death bed. The family called Marvin’s Preacher to be with him in his final moments.

 As the Preacher stood by the bed, Marvin’s condition seemed to deteriorate, and Marvin motioned for someone to quickly pass him a pen and paper. The Preacher quickly got a pen and paper and lovingly handed it to Marvin. But before he had a chance to read the note, Marvin died.

 The Preacher feeling that now wasn’t the right time to read it put the note in his jacket pocket. It was at the funeral while speaking that the Preacher suddenly remembered the note. Reaching deep into his pocket the Preacher said “and you know what, I suddenly remembered that right before Marvin died he handed me a note, and knowing Marvin I’m sure it was something inspiring that we can all gain from. With that introduction the Preacher ripped out the note and opened it.



Whether You are listening to a political candidate, business executive, a parent advising their child, or a psychologist advising parents how to raise their children, almost without exception you will hear them using one or all of three words to emphasize the point they are trying to make. The three words I am referring to are FIGHT,  STRUGGLE  and HARD.

“I will fight for you”, “Life is a struggle” and “If you want to succeed you have to work hard”, are three statements that are time and time again used by all of those who are charged with helping to educate us about what it takes to survive the journey of life.

How very unfortunate that is. Instead of inspiring us those who use these phrases are in fact depressing their intended audience.

Do you really feel enthusiastic when a person who tells you that it takes a “fight” to accomplish something or would you feel more excited knowing that the individual promises to “WORK” for you.  Fighting suggests an adversarial contest between parties.  I suggest that our society would be so much better if we stopped fighting each other and begin to work together to solve problems.

How hopeful can you be when you are told that each day of your life will be a “struggle”? It seems to me that individuals are more inclined to be enthusiastic when approaching any situation that presents a “challenge”? Why would you want to tell a child that they are about to face a life filled with “struggles”?

And finally at 87 years of age I have had many successes and my share of failures, but my experience has taught me that success came not when I worked to the point of exhaustion, but when I worked “smart” lived a balanced life and treated each obstacle as a “challenge” that was resolved by using my knowledge and experience (smarts) to be a winner.

Given the many challenges we face in this chaotic world I suggest that we all need to work together to address the issues we face each day and find time to have fun as we use our smarts to achieve success.

Bernie Otis is a bestselling Writer, Author & Speaker, whose new Book; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” is available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble

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Three Most Essential Qualities of a Leader

Many years ago, when I was just entering my teens, I became enthralled by the writings of the late great poet, Edgar A. Gust who wrote for a major Detroit newspaper. His poem “They Said It Couldn’t Be Done” has been an inspiration to me all of my life and its message still rings true today, as I write this message.

Somebody said it couldn’t be done

Somebody said it couldn’t be done,
But he with a chuckle replied
That maybe it couldn’t, but he would be one
Who wouldn’t say, “Til he tried.”

So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin
On his face. If he worried he hid it,
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
That couldn’t be done, and he did it.

Somebody scoffed: “Oh, you’ll never do that:
At least no one ever has done it.”
But he took off his coat and he took off his hat
And the first thing he knew he’d begun it.

With the lift of his chin and a bit of a grin,
Without any doubting or quitting
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
That couldn’t be done, and he did it.

There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done,
There are thousands to prophesy failure:
There are thousands to point out to you, one by one,
The dangers that wait to assail you,

But just buckle right in with a bit of a grin
Then take off your coat and go to it:
Just start in to sing as you tackle the thing
That cannot be done, and you’ll do it.

It is frightening to watch the current political process in America and listen to the claims of those who are seeking to lead our Country in the coming years. Each candidate claims to have leadership qualities that make them the best choice for the job.

So let’s look at three of the most important qualities that a person must possess to be looked upon as a leader:

A good leader is a person who has the insight, time and patience that enables them to select, as part of their team, persons who can be trained to take that leader’s job, as well as the willingness to help those persons move on in their careers, even if it means losing them to a competitor.

  1. A good leader has the vision to take on challenges and see opportunities that others see as not possible to accomplish.
  2. Finally a good leader also has the ability to look at opportunities that others view as possible to accomplish, but for many reasons the leader recognizes hidden obstacles that will guarantee failure.

In simple terms a good leader knows the importance of choosing future leaders, sees the real opportunities that exist and recognizes how to avoid failure.

Bernard S. Otis is a well known Writer, Author and Speaker.  His new Best Selling Book “How to Prepare for Old Age—-Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” is available on Amazon and Barnes and Nobel. Read his Blogs at

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The Importance of Serving Your Community

A father with two young sons had been concerned for some time about when to explain to them about sexuality.

 Finally one morning he got the courage to do so and sat down with his oldest son who was 12 years of age and explained in detail about the birds and bees.

 When he finished, he was worn out and did not have the energy to go through the process again with his 10 year old son. He said to the older son “please find your brother and tell him what I just told you”.

 The older son looked for his brother and when he found him he said “Jerry, Dad wants me to tell you something. You know what we have been doing with the neighbor girls in our garage—well Dad wants you to know that the birds and bees do it too”.

As I look back over the past 87 years of my life I think about what, besides my family and friends, was it that has had the most influence on decisions I have made; what has enriched me the most? I would have to say that it was in 1954, when I was appointed to manage a large retail business in the then new Northland Shopping Center in Detroit, Michigan and my employer advised me to join the new Southfield Michigan Rotary Club.

I was just 25 years of age, green behind the ears and had not the slightest idea what a Rotary Club was. It did not take me long to find out.

In simple terms, there are over one million, two hundred thousand Rotarians in close to 35,000 Clubs worldwide whose Moto is, “Service Above Self.” These clubs and their members, quietly go about giving to their communities and often, to my chagrin, do not adequately make known the great work they do. I must add that while Rotary is the largest of  the service clubs, others like the Lions, Exchange and Kiwanis, to mention a few, do great work in serving their communities as well.

Members of Rotary, business, professional and public service men and women, meet weekly for breakfast, lunch, or dinner to discuss how they can make, not only their own communities a better place to live, but also to address the needs of less fortunate communities worldwide and how they can provide them with money and medical aide, offer enhanced educational opportunities and supply other assistance.

Over the past few years Rotary has successfully teamed with Bill Gates to raise the money needed to eradicate Polio worldwide, while Rotary’s student and business person exchange programs have helped to contribute to the understanding of different countries and cultures. Adding to these activities are local support programs which work with the police, fire department and our youth to make certain they all get the support they need.

And finally you should know that it is the Rotarians of the world who are among the first responders when a major catastrophic disaster occurs anywhere at any time.

So why am I spending time writing about this in my blog? It is because, in a society that seems to be running on double time, never having the time to reach out and get to know one another, or that keeps saying, “I don’t have time for such things” it is important for you to know. Dedicated members of such service clubs find the time to do the good work needed to make our lives better and we all need to stop, take a deep breath and join them, in our own way, in making this world a better place in which to live.

My many years of service as a member and Past president of several Rotary Clubs nationally has been most rewarding—why don’t you look into how you might serve the world community by becoming part of this great organization

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Speaker, and Author, Marketing /Sales/Customer Service Consultant

Look for my best-selling book “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.

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Are We Our Brother’s Keepers—The Importance of Family Relationships

Reflections of Life As Seen Through the Poets’ Eyes

Strange as it may seem to you I still remember it so clearly
She had soft flowing hair and sparkling eyes
And a smile so warm and glistening so sweet and tenderly
She was my Mother a warm precious woman who sang me beautiful lullabies

Standing there beside her all smiles and expressing great joy
Was a handsome young man in his late 20’s who could not be any happier
As he looked at his family’s brand new Toy
And silently planned the youngster’s future life and career

As I lay there silently observing the two of them rejoice I could not help but wonder Had the family that I was placed in been a very wise choice While so far it seemed okay to me, I knew that only time would provide the answer And then I heard these two persons say to each other “I love you” in a soft and caring voice

Any doubts I had were gone and I relaxed and went to sleep waiting very excitingly To see what the future held knowing that I was quite safe as my life’s journey began Each day was filled with fun and felt heavenly as I learned to speak, walk and do other fun things I laughed, played games as my father chased me as around the block as I ran

Now you may think that this is all nonsense and how could anyone remember such long ago things? But it is really very true and there is even more And as I go on looking back and so warmly remembering What occurred in my life many, many years ago

 I continued my journey, with siblings who joined along the way Along with extended family and friends added My life was enriched and each and every day I felt so much rewarded

Then a marriage and children followed and I watched in joy with some astonishment As I became the parent like my own Parents were, from my very start It was a great time and memorable moment One that touched my loving heart

As time went on I suddenly found that the ones I had most loved and adored and who had taken such good care of me Had aged and finally been take away And all I had was a wonderful memory

If I have gotten one message from my life’s interesting journey It is to always be trusting, faithful and do good things and never stop looking into the eyes of all your loved ones, as you keep saying in words expressed tenderly “I love you, I love you and I always will” as you continue to enjoy relationships so fulfilling

Bernie Otis 

While writing my new Book I had an awakening of sorts and began to write Poetry. The one which appears at the start of this Blog gave me great joy and inspired this Blog.

As we  travel the journey of life we often are confronted by major obstacles to happiness and joy. None are more painful than the breakup of family relationships. And when you look at the reasons for such breakups we discover that they are over petty issues such as money, religion, marriage and sexual differences.

The very first question asked in the Bible is in response to God’s asking: “Where is your brother” to which Cain responds,“….Am I my brother’s keeper?”

The answer to this question is ‘Yes’ we are our brother’s keeper and as we go through life this becomes more and more important. As I continue my community service each day I visit families which have been broken up, seniors living alone of or in assisted living centers, nursing homes and other facilities who are sad and lonely and lacking in family relationships for the reasons mentioned previously.

Consider this: David (name changed for obvious reasons) is a very successful restaurant operator and close friend. One night before my beloved Anna passed away we were having dinner in one of David’s restaurants and David came to our table and sat down. Because I knew him and his family quite well I asked him how his older daughter, a 19 year old pretty young lady who had often worked in the restaurant, was.

He told us that he had no relationship with her and that she was moving to another State to live with her cousin. I was quite surprised and asked him why. He told us that she was not married and had become pregnant and he and his wife wanted her out of their home, because that was an affront to their religious beliefs.

I was shocked by his answer and told him that he needed to go home, put his arms around her and squeeze her with love——that she needed him now more than ever. After finishing dinner we left.

Several weeks later Anna’s illness worsened and I did not see David for close to two years, following Anna’s death.

When I did see him I asked him how his daughter was doing living with her cousin. He smiled and said “I owe you a dinner. After you berated me when we last met I went home and my wife and I followed your suggestion. My daughter did not move. She and the bay are living here as a family and we could not be happier.”

My dear readers if you have a loved one living sad and alone due to aging problems, family differences etc. etc. take a step back and pause in your life and think about what you can do to reunite with that loved one so that all involved can reintroduce fun into your lives as the book slowly closes on your life. Family relationships matter more than you realize.

Bernard Otis

Author of How to Prepare for Old Age: Without Taking the Fun Out of Life

Available on Amazon and B&N

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Is It Okay To Admit Failure??

An architect, an artist and an accountant were discussing whether it was better to spend time with the wife or a mistress.

The architect said he enjoyed time with his wife, building a solid foundation for an enduring relationship.

The artist said he enjoyed time with his mistress, because of the passion and mystery he found there.

 The accountant said, “I like both.”

“Both?”, the other two asked.

 The accountant replied “Yeah. If you have a wife and a mistress, they will each assume you are spending time with the other woman, and you can go to the office and get some work done.”

As I begin writing my Blogs again let me explain why it is been a while since they have not been appearing.

As a writer I find it important to take a hiatus at the end of each year in order to evaluate where I have been, where I am going and what issues are important to address in the coming months.

Having done that and now, having taken a deep breath, it  is time to share with you what I have learned over that period of silence; and quite frankly it is most disturbing.

For weeks now we have been unable to turn on the TV, read newspapers and magazines without hearing charges and counter charges regarding leaders and prospective leaders of our country having changed their positions on various issues and that by so doing being unqualified to serve the nation.

To me, one of the most important questions we need to answer and the title of this Blog is; “Is It Okay to Admit Failure? In other words does “flip flopping” demonstrate bad character?” Obviously we are reluctant to admit that we are wrong, but is that a bad thing?

It occurs to me to be the contrary. When we have taken a stand on an issue and then having obtained new information regarding that issue are caused to reevaluate our thinking, questioning our character  is disingenuous; the person who has changed their mind shows a sincere level of moral character.

Wee must learn how to disagree and learn from our failures and never fear being accused of weakness by showing a willingness to change our minds.

Bernie Otis is a Writer, Author and Speaker, whose best Selling Book “How to Prepare for  Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life: is available of Amazon and Barnes and Noble. He can be reached at

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