Are you Doing Your Part?

A young man saw an elderly couple sitting down to lunch at McDonald’s. He noticed that they had ordered one meal, and an extra drink cup. As he watched, the gentleman carefully divided the hamburger in half, then counted out the fries, one for him, one for her, until each had half of them.

Then he poured half of the soft drink into the extra cup and set that in front of his wife. The old man then began to eat, and his wife sat watching, with her hands folded in her lap.

The young man decided to ask if they would allow him to purchase another meal for them so that they didn’t have to split theirs.

The old gentleman said, “Oh no. We’ve been married 50 years, and everything has always been and will always be shared, 50/50.” The young man then asked the wife if she was going to eat, and she replied, “Not yet. It’s his turn with the teeth.”

Shortly after starting to write my blogs almost four years ago, I wrote about the importance of finding time each day to help those who are facing serious problems taking the journey of life.

Since that time, millions of more individuals and families have found themselves dealing with economic, health, and significant disability situations which they simply cannot handle without the support of all of us.

Today’s blog reminds my readers of the work that one group, in the forefront of helping others, is performing, in hopes that each of you will join these individuals, and there are many, who find time to help those who have serious needs.

There exists a group of persons, 1.2 million strong, in countries worldwide, who meet each week at a specific time, where they work and live, to strive to make this world safer, healthier and more productive.

Their dedication is to growing personable business and personal relationships that contribute to world peace. Their Motto; Service Above Self sends a message loud and clear: These men and women, who honestly believe they can help those who live in bad health, poverty and fear and who believe they can make a positive difference in lives, are called Rotarians.

The Four Way Test of Rotary tells its story “of the things we think, say or do” loud and clear.   Is it the TRUTH? Is it FAIR to all concerned? Will it build GOOD WILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS? Will it be BENIFICIAL to all concerned?

I am proud to have had the opportunity in my life to be an active member of Rotary and urge all my readers to find quality time in their lives to participate in this or similar giving organizations. Every person can give you reasons why, ‘I do not have time” but sadly, we spend so much time doing unimportant things that we neglect what should be our most important tasks — reaching out to help others who are so much more in need.

Even individuals who are financially secure often find themselves alone. Look within yourself and find some time to reach out and help others. The personal reward you will receive from doing your part will be overwhelming.

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging.

 Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Loving and Respecting Those Who Are Differently-Abled

(This is the longest Blog I have ever written but it is a message worthy of sharing and I hope you will take the time to read it)

Planning for the birth of a child is a very special time which is done with much care
The parents and other loved ones look forward to it with great joy
And when the child’s first sounds are heard cheers permeate the air
What matters most too all involved is the child’s health not whether it is a girl or boy

And as the child begins its life’s journey and adds to society’s goodness
Each sign of the youngsters maturing is celebrated by its family with great pride
Watching a child grow and develop its unique personality adds to our happiness
But every once in a we sadly discover that our child has another side

It has diverse needs which even modern science cannot always understand
The one we have brought into this world may be afflicted with a lifelong special challenge
Which changes the happiness and joy into a concern for them and those in their command
And creates a life style change for all of the loved ones upon whom the child’s care depends

Caring for a person, yes no matter the impediment-the child is a real person, a member of our society
Who is precious and much loved and the parent/caregiver now more than ever makes certain that they can expect
That those responsible will devote their entire energy to helping them have a life filled with love and dignity
Making certain that no matter how they look or act in public they are treated with respect

So dear friends please open your hearts and minds to this very simple fact
We cannot always be assured that bearing a child will result in a person without needs
But we are all, including those who are “differently-abled”, part of natures yield and remember to always act
With love, respect and admiration for significant needy persons and join their loved ones
Who do such good deeds

 – Bernie Otis

 

Hi dear readers. I hope that you will take time to seriously read today’s blog. It is one which, as you will learn, has deep meaning to me. And in fact, as I was preparing to write it, I happened to read an opinion that William Falk, the Editor-in-chief of The Week Magazine wrote in its current edition:

“Norms of civility are eroding at a galloping pace and are giving way to an unashamed rudeness—a me –first ethos in which people feel they owe nothing to anyone. —–C’mon people: We’re all stuck with each other, and life is a lot easier—and more pleasant—when we grant other folks the right to exist”.

Read on to learn how this applies directly to the feelings of those with significant diversity and their devoted caregivers, when in public areas.

In one of my recent blogs, I mentioned that, as a result of a new program my Rotary Club had started with the Los Angeles School District, I had the privilege to speak to a group of high school seniors about how to plan their education and careers.

As a result of that experience, my life has been more enriched and doors of opportunity have been opened to share my knowledge and life’s experiences with diverse groups. Diverse individuals and their families, need the world community to open their hearts and minds to them and welcome them with open arms, rather than look away as if they do not exist, as they struggle to seek to be an integral part of our daily lives.

Let me explain;

Following my talk at Taft High School in Woodland Hills, California, a suburb of Los Angeles, I was walking down the stairs to return to my car when a lovely young woman noticed that I was walking with difficulty (my right leg is suffering the effects of a botched artery operation some years ago). She offered to help me down the stairs and as we spoke I asked her what she did at the school.

Christina told me she was a single mom of two boys, her youngest son, Johnny who is 18 years old, was a student at Taft HS.  She went on to tell me how she was the parent who helped get the “Find Your Calling Career Club” started (where I had just spoken)  and that she volunteers there on a regular basis to help support her son’s wonderful teachers.

She continued to share with me that Johnny has “diverse needs”, which means he has more significant needs than most students his age. Johnny’s communication is very limited. He cannot use his voice to speak and he cannot write with a pen and paper.  Christina has to find ways for him to communicate his wants and needs. He has seizures and eats through a feeding tube because he chokes easily.

He has had many surgeries and hospitalizations throughout is short life here on earth, however, despite Johnny’s challenges, the gifts he teaches Christina and so many others, far surpass the work that is required of her to care for him. She truly believes she is the “luckiest mom in the world” because every single day that Johnny is in her life, she gets an opportunity to learn compassion, empathy, patience, tolerance and understanding; letting go of her fears and truly living in the moment.

Christina is a nurse and a filmmaker, and had been working in the entertainment industry as a medical consultant for TV shows and films for the past 10 years, but this past year, made a decision that she needed to spend the majority of her professional work fulfilling her life’s purpose, which is creating content through TV and film, sharing profound stories of people who have so much to teach us.

Christina then told me about what was going on in the community of persons with diverse needs similar to Johnny’s and invited me to attend the opening of the new Legacy Center in our community. A center designed to provide physical activities, as well as classes for community-neglected people with health and physical impairments. They also offer special education classes. In addition, the Center was reaching out to seniors in the community who had physical activity requirements.

When I attended that event I was overwhelmed by what I saw and during a meeting with its Director, Jacqueline Bisquera, a woman who works as a marketing professional during the day and spends her off time as the center’s Director and Advocate for those I have herein described.

Jacqueline also told me, with tears in her eyes, how she was further motivated by the recent loss of her young daughter who had been challenged with Rett Syndrome.

I was moved by something else that Jacqueline said, “This is for the community to embrace all individuals. There are no special needs, no mental, physical or cognitively impaired,  no old or disabled – there are only people with diverse needs, all with challenges that can be lessened and strengths that can be grown.”

What these individuals need is to feel part of the community and feel respected for who they are and what they do. How basic is this thing called respect? Yet our society moves further and further away from this simple idea and in doing so, further and further away from the thing that binds us together—-The human connection.”

My dear friends, even at my age, and although I thought I had learned everything I needed to know about life and the challenges it presents, until I met these two remarkable women, listened to their stories and saw with my own eyes how their lives have been effected by their 24 hour, seven-day-a-week dedication to bringing joy to their loved ones, I did not understand how important a role each of us has in giving them our support.

I ask you dear friends for two favors;

1: When you encounter these wonderful persons put your arms around them, put your arms around them emotionally and include them as part of, not separate form our community.

2: Find time to visit centers like the Legacy Center in Woodland Hills, California and see for yourself the wonderful work, devotion and dedication the parent’s families and the staff are providing to communities, to ensure all members of our society are respected and valued equally. You may even find an interest to be part of it.

Bernie Otis

 

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

 Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

 

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Fill Your Life With Love

As we approach Valentine’s day, I want to share a blog which I ran several years ago and which is so appropriate to this love-filled day. The message was sent to me by my friend and ardent blog reader, Joan Vieweger, a principal of Choclatique, who along with her food genius partner, Ed Engoron, run one of, if not the, world’s greatest creators of specialty chocolates.

While we do not know who wrote it, it certainly is a powerful message and does not need any commentary from me to send its message.

Another year has passed
And we’re all a little older.
Last summer felt hotter
And winter seems much colder.

There was a time not long ago
When life was quite a blast.
Now I fully understand
About ‘Living in the Past’.

We used to go to weddings,
Football games and lunches.
Now we go to funeral homes
And after-funeral brunches.

We used to have hangovers,
From parties that were gay.
Now we suffer body aches
And whine the night away.

We used to go out dining,
And couldn’t get our fill.
Now we ask for doggie bags,
Come home and take a pill.

We used to often travel
To places near and far.
Now we get sore asses
From riding in the car.

We used to go to nightclubs
And drink a little booze.
Now we stay home at night
And watch the evening news.

That, my friend is how life is,
And now my tale is told.
So, enjoy each day and live it up
Before you’re too damned old!

See Choclatique @ www.choclatique.com/

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on senior living facilities and other issues related to aging, and will be staring to teach a class about how to enjoy life’s journey, at the new Calabasas Senior Center on Wednesday, February 2017.

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Preparing for the Challenges of the New Year

Today’s blog begins with a story I was told by one of my new friends, Samuel Osborne, a well known author, writer, humorist, podcast producer and speaker who, along with his wife, has just moved to California from Melbourne, Australia.

A man was taking his morning run on a pathway along side of a mountain, when he tripped and fell over the mountain side.

He was able to grab unto the side of the mountain and keep from dropping hundreds of feet to a certain death.

 Holding on for dear life, he looked up and hollered out, “Is there someone up there who can help me?” There was no response.

 Again he hollered out, this time louder, “Please is there someone up there who can help me?” Still, there was no answer.

 Trying once again he screamed, “Please, can someone up there help me?

A loud voice boomed out, “This is God. Do what I tell you and I will save you! Let go of the mountain side and I will catch and hold you.”

 There were a few seconds of silence and the man screamed out, “Is there someone else up there who can help me?

This past year has seen our country go through some challenging social and economic times but we must not forget that we have also had great accomplishments as well. Yes life is filled with happiness and joy-pain and suffering, but we must always remain optimistic.

As we begin the year 2017 let us dedicate ourselves to achieving the following important goals:

  1. Working diligently to strengthen our family and social relationships so that as we travel the journey of life, it will be filled with love and joy.
  2. Keeping our eyes and minds open to the wonderful opportunities that exist for persons of all ages, so that the journey ends happily.
  3. Teaching the young members of our families the true value of life and how to plan and live it in a way that will optimize their success along the way.
  4. Reaching out to our neighbors, of whatever creed, color, religious affiliation or economic status, in such a way as to demonstrate our love, compassion and concern for their welfare.
  5. Being ever vigilant to the dangers we face as a country from both inside and outside our borders by those who seek to both to divide us and enslave us.
  6. Making certain, that no matter what our age, that we are prepared mentally and financially for the unexpected that may come our way.

Let me close this message by sharing a personal story with you. I have a grandson who is in his late 20’s. He worked many long and difficult hours in order to obtain graduation from a major American university. Following graduation, he found a job with a large automobile dealership near where he went to college. After serving his apprenticeship, he earned several promotions leading to an executive position within the firm.

Several months ago he fell in love with a beautiful young woman and they became engaged – a real dream story so far wouldn’t you agree? And then – while out playing soccer with a group of friends it happened – he was engaged in a game, fell to the ground, was kicked as he fell, and was badly injured. This young lad broke multiple bones in both legs and ankles, has been in terrible pain for weeks and had to wait almost a month before the swelling in his legs went down enough so that doctors could operate and repair the damages.

A few hours ago, as I was writing this blog, I was finally able to speak with him. He told me that he has a 6-8 month recuperation period and is now able to walk on crutches. He told me that if it had not been for his parents, who live many miles from him and his bride to be, he could not have survived the ordeal.

In all of my writings and speeches, I emphasize the importance of being prepared for what life’s journey has in store for us, whether it be early or late death, or debilitating injuries.

Hopefully, my readers, you will stop, catch your breath and ask yourself, “Am I ready for the happiness and joy – pain and suffering, that lurks along the highway of life?”

Bernie Otis is a well-known writer, author and speaker, as well as a highly respected food, beverage, laundry and marketing/sales consultant. During his lifetime, he has been involved in the design and supply of all major hotels in Las Vegas and Disneyland as well as major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants locally (he has been involved in the design of most major restaurants in Southern California.

 Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

 

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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A Challenge to All Parents

An old man was grocery shopping with his grandson. The toddler was crying, and at times, screaming at the top of his lungs. 

As the old gentleman walked up and down the aisles, people could hear him speaking in a soft voice, “We are almost done, Albert…try not to cry, Albert. Life will get better, Albert.” 

As he approached the checkout stand, he carefully brushed the toddler’s tears from his eyes and said again, “Try not to cry, Albert. We will be home soon, Albert.” 

As he was paying the cashier, the toddler continued to cry as a young woman in line behind him said, “Sir, I think it is wonderful how sweet you are being to your little Albert.”

The old gentleman blinked his eyes a couple of times before saying, “My grandson’s name is John……I’m Albert.”

ANON

 

In previous blogs that I have written, I have often touched on the need for parents to get past the bland advice of “do your best”, when discussing their child’s future with them and really take time to find out what their children are thinking and how they see their future.

The importance of that advice was never more strengthened than an experience I recently had and the results that followed.

My Rotary Club was asked, by a major high school in our district, to have some of our senior members speak to their Senior Class about the journey of life. They wanted us to share our experiences and what some of life’s challenges are and what we learned from dealing with them.

I had the privilege of being one of those chosen to participate in this program. It was one of the most exciting and inspiring experiences I have ever had. Not only were the students highly interested in what I had to say, but what happened afterwards was even more surprising and exciting.

When I finished speaking I was surrounded by the students who were throwing questions at me as fast as I could answer them. That afternoon my email was filled with messages from them thanking me for providing the answers to their many questions about how to plan their education and careers. Some of them shared with me their frustration with their parents.

They felt that their parents were not able to address their concerns, nor did they want to take the time, listening to their son’s and daughter’s thoughts about their future.

Today, some 4 weeks after my presentation, and just prior to writing this blog, I received an email from one of the attendees asking me if I would spend some time with him to help him find his path to his future or find his calling in life.

What does this tell you, my readers, about the state of our educational system and the relationship between our young persons and their parents?

For me it is a red flag. Despite the fact that we are supposed to be living in an information-filled society, so much of our time is spent wasting our time on keeping up with technology, that we are failing those whose futures depend upon our guidance in planning their life.

My dear friends, we need to stop, take a deep breath, and listen to our children so that we understand their thinking and wants. We need to help them, by not only giving them good advice as to how to achieve their desires, but also, when we cannot do so, help them find the resources that can provide that roadmap.

For example, almost without exception, it is essential that our youth become efficient in mathematics if they are to become successful in almost any of today’s important careers. Yet parents are not generally proficient in the field and find it difficult to encourage their children to excel in its use.

Worst yet when their children have difficulty with the subject instead of finding tutors who know how to help the child become proficient, the parents tell them to “just do the best you can.” If we are to help our kids have success in this technological era we need to help them not by telling them to “do your best” but by encouraging them to “be their best.”

Today, as early as grade school, young students are exposed to technology which excites them, such as Robotics, which begins to point them towards careers which will affect them forever.

No matter what your profession or business involvement is, do not assume that your child wants to follow in your path. I have in my own lifetime had friends who spent the major portion of their lives in a family business, hating every minute of it.

The journey of life is exciting, challenging and rewarding, but just as we must plan for old Age, we must invest the time necessary to help our children plan the trip they wish to take (not one we  want them to take) which will get them there.

 

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

 

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

 

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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A Special Message to My Loved Ones and Friends

A beautiful woman has a date with a very handsome man and they end up in the front seat of his car, with their arms around each other. They are enjoying it and he asks her if she would like to go in the backseat. She says “no”. He asks her again and again she says “no”. He becomes upset and asks her again “Why not”, and she replies “Because I want to stay up here with you.

 

Four years ago when I began to write what has since become my best-selling book, my book advisor told me, that if I was to have a successful launch, I needed to introduce pre-publication of the book by way of a blog.

Since I had no idea what a blog was, I began scouring the internet looking for blogs. I quickly found one written by my soon-to-be friend and author Glenn Van Ekeren, entitled “Enthused About life”.

The success of my blog, as well as my book, has been overwhelmingly great . I am pleased to not only express my appreciation to all of you, my readers, for making that happen, but at the same time wish to announce that today’s blog is #150 in the series and will be the last one until January 2017.

As I close out the year, let me share with you what I have learned from my four-year personal writing experience (I have written business books and articles for many years) which began in my 84th year and now extends going into number 88.

The number one lesson is that life never ends, even at death, so long as you have the mental ability to be aware of the opportunities that you have to do good, make amends for errors you may have made during the complex journey of life and help others, as well and share your knowledge and experiences with those who are coming up behind you.

For example, I have recently begun sharing my experiences with high school seniors and the reception has been overwhelming. This has not only injected a youthful feeling within me, but added to my strong desire to continue to be known as the 88 year old, 18 year old kid.

Also, by continuing to keep a high and active profile, I have been able to accomplish Lesson #2, establishing and actively retaining warm friendships made over the years, both personal and business related.

In the past 30 days, I have had numerous E-Mails and phone calls from persons I have known for up to 55 years. Many of them, who live nearby, are meeting me for lunch and dinner. Those who live at a distance communicate with me often. My friend Sean, with whom I did much business over the years, but with whom I had not spoken to in a number of years, read my blog and is joining me for lunch later this month.

A young mother, Christina, whose son has a serious physical disability, heard of my talk at the high School and invited me to breakfast where she shared the story of her son’s difficult life and her work helping other such youth.

Years ago, while heavily involved in the hotel restaurant industry, I had a warm relationship with Kim, a general contractor in Dallas. It has been years since we spoke-but again he is an ardent blog reader and called me few days ago.

It is clear to me that whatever number you carry as your age, it has nothing to do with what you can accomplish in life as you enjoy the journey.

And this morning, as I was completing this writing, my long time friend Bill, one of the hotel industry’s most prominent purchasing gurus, called to say hello. Life is about giving, doing and sharing and I cannot emphasize this enough; do not let your age stop you from participating in that process.

Finally, many of my readers, including my dear friends Ed and Joan, owners of the world famous custom candy firm Choclatique, whom I have not seen for years, send me comments, tips and other good information after each Blog they read. (I usually do not do commercials) but if you want to send some great candy gifts for the Holidays go to www.choclatique.com. YUM, YUM..

So, to all of those who read this message, I wish you and yours a most happy holiday season and a continuing happy year to come, filled with joy and urge you to find a way to heal long time family or friendship differences and bond with each other.

In the final analysis, we are all our brothers keepers, so don’t let age or other issues stop you from living your life.

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker and Community Leader. His Best Selling Book: “How to Prepare for Old Age” “Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” can be found on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Read his Blogs at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/ 

If you would like to have Bernie’s advice and help in finding the right facility for your needs contact him at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com. 818-519-8347. There is no cost involved. 

Bernie also recently wrote the History of the Restaurant Industry in the San Fernando Valley, for the Los Angeles Library Commission.

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A Tribute to the Caregivers of the World

 

November is Caregivers month. A time when we take pause to offer our praise and thanks to not only family members who give up their jobs, personal time and social activities to care for their loved ones, but also to total strangers, many of whom are immigrants – yes the much maligned persons who do so much good for so many sick persons in our society.

Who are these silent heroes who play such an important role
In caring for the sick and aging amongst us
And complain not to a soul
They come from every world country and never make a fuss

They are paid a lowly wage and have little job security
In fact they are often at the mercy of a sickly being
Who no longer has the mentality
To appreciate the kindness and care that they are receiving

Their English is not always great and they struggle to improve it
And at night some go to school to improve their care giving knowledge
While all the time doing all they can to give those in need of help the benefit
Of the things they learned as they worked their way through college

At times they have no time to properly eat and cannot take a break
Because of their patient’s medical emergencies
And sleeping on someone else’ sofa and/or chair is not so great
But does somewhat help to solve fatigue’s urgency

Because of their devotion and expertise
Caregivers are always ready to act quickly in any and all situations
And they calmly resolve health issues with relative ease
And with their management and the patient’s doctors they maintain communications

So please do understand and not take lightly the role of your caregiver
And be sure to be selective and treat them with respect
After all you have entrusted them with the life of one you revere
So help them to give you what it is you expect

                                                                 -Bernie Otis

 Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California. 

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging 

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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The Closet Built for Old Toys

There comes a time in our lives when we or a loved one, finds it wise and/or necessary to give up our independent living and find a community where we can live comfortably. One where we can either be semi-independent or have the help of others as we move towards the conclusion of our lives.

Sadly, all too often, individuals and their families wait until the need is urgent and there is a mad scramble to find the right facility and learn about what they are all about and make the right decision.

I know this because, like millions of others, it was not until my beloved Anna passed away that I found myself alone. Miles away from my family and with a physical impairment, I was forced to make a quick decision. I was advised to move into a Senior/Assisted Living Home. It was one of the best decisions I could have made.

Hopefully by reading my poem about what I call The Closet Built for Old Toys (which is what I jokingly call such facilities), you will have a view of what these senior communities are all about.

There are two things you must learn to accept no matter what choice you make:

1. The food, while acceptable, is designed to meet the dietary needs of Seniors and will not be like your home cooked version.
2. Like any change you make in life it takes a month, or so, to adjust to the change in your daily routine.

There exists in places like California an oasis called Leisure World’s Fairwinds
It was built as a haven for the aged otherwise affectionately referred to as “Old Toys”
The folks who reside in its beautiful buildings are like your loved ones who once freely smiled and grinned
But now many have lost much of their joy

They are forced to use walkers, canes and wheelchairs
To just get around
And to receive help from wonderful caregivers
To prevent injuries from falls to the ground

They come here from near and far and for different reasons as well
So as not be a burden to their children
And to find new friends their age and each has a story to tell.
As well as to go to parties and socialize every now and then

They eat, sleep and play games such as Pan, Mahjong and Bingo and talk political philosophy
As well as watch movies at night
Oh yes, just as most people in life they complain and have jealousies
When you get to know them you will find so many are very bright

There are services for the religious to attend
And the weekly sing alongs are exciting and fun
Field trips for shoppers and diners alike are a daily trend
Trips to doctor’s appointments are made all day until done

The caregivers are warm, helpful and dedicated to the welfare of each of these fine souls
And happily address their resident’s every need
Being good and kind is their primary goal
Responding to each call for help with smiles and great speed

Such a home is needed as our lives keep being extended as our bodies continue wearing out
It takes much determination and patience to
Decide to change life style and give up your independence
As you turn your daily tasks over to others to do.

But despite all the big changes suddenly affecting your health and your body
When into Fairwinds you choose to move, to this “Closet for Old Toys”
And become friendly with all who live here you will soon join everybody
Who in their late years appreciate its many many joys

Bernie Otis

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker and Community Leader. His Best Selling Book: “How to Prepare for Old Age” “Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” can be found on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Read his Blogs at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

If you would like to have Bernie’s advice and help in finding the right facility for your needs contact him at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com. 818-519-8347. There is no cost involved.

Bernie also recently wrote the History of the Restaurant Industry in the San Fernando Valley, for the Los Angeles Library Commission

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Persistence – The key to A Happy Aging Life

Having trouble making new friends?

Well, these little bits of advice I got off a friendship card will certainly give you a few tips on making new friends. Keep these in mind as you go out and soon you will find lots of new TRUE friends. Good Luck!

  1. Don’t worry about knowing people, just make yourself worth knowing.
  2. Be friendly with the folks you know. If it weren’t for them you would be a total stranger.
  3. Friends are those who speak to you after others don’t.
  4. The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail and not his tongue.
  5. The way to have friends is to be willing to lose some arguments.
  6. Deal with other’s faults as gently as if they were your own.
  7. A friend is a person who can step on your shoes without messing your shine.
  8. You will never have a friend if you must have one without faults.
  9. You can make more friends by being interested in them than trying to have them be interested in you.
  10. A real friend is a person who, when you’ve made a fool of yourself, lets you forget it.
  11. A friend is a person who listens attentively while you say nothing.

… and most important… A FRIEND IS A TREASURE!

 

As I begin this blog, I would be remiss if I did not thank all of my readers who have been calling and writing messages asking if I am doing well, and when the next blog will be sent.

One would think that a man who is closing in on his 88th birthday, would have a lot of time on his hands and have no problem finding time to do what he loves to do—share his thoughts about the journey of life by writing Blogs.

The fact is, I have never been busier: redeeming the errors I have made in life by accomplishing the goals I have set out for myself, as my journey nears its completion.

If I have learned one thing over these past 6 years, and I want to stress this as strongly as I can, it is that if one is to achieve success and enjoy the journey of life, regardless of the mental or physical impairments they may have, it is important to have goals and objectives and to persevere in achieving them.

When my beloved Anna passed away 4 years ago, I was 84 years of age. I decided to write a book honoring her memory and at the same time send a message to the world that the journey of life was filled with happiness and joy, suffering and pain, and that by doing the right things as you take that journey, it can be filled with fun.

I was determined to demonstrate that, by being persistent and using the tools that we have been given, we could succeed. I am most pleased to report that my book is a huge success. I am out speaking to major organizations about it several times a week, my story and the book are being featured in major national publications and I expect to have a major announcement about the book in the very near future.

I also found a way, even though I can no longer travel, to continue to share my knowledge of the food and beverage industry so that I could help others grow. As a result, I was able to help a major corporation design and build a multi-billion-dollar new facility which includes a major food & beverage facility.

My work as a trained Hospice Caregiver is continuing as I help terminally Ill individuals cope with their crisis. And my long time active membership in Rotary International, continues as I participate in the wonderful world and community projects of my Rotary Club of Woodland Hills, CA.

I also have just been asked to join the Board of Directors of the Glendale California International Film Festival and Book Festival.

And finally, as a resident of Fairwinds Assisted Living Center, a leisure care facility in the San Fernando Valley suburb of West Hills, California I do my part to help residents who have needs.

In case you missed my message it is simply this—–Life Only Ends When You Give Up Living It. Set Goals- And Be Persistent In Pursuing Them.

 

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker and Community Leader. His Best Selling Book: “How to Prepare for Old Age” “Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” can be found on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Read his Blogs at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 If you would like to have Bernie Speak to your Group contact him at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com

 Bernie also recently wrote the History of the Restaurant Industry in the San Fernando Valley, for the Los Angeles Library Commission

 

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Does Your Age Make You Old?

I’ve had two bypass surgeries, a hip replacement, new knees, fought prostate cancer and diabetes.

I am half blind, can’t hear anything quieter than a jet engine,

Take 40 different medicines that make me dizzy, winded and subject to blackouts.

I have bouts of dementia and bad circulation.

I hardly feel my hands and feet anymore.

I can’t remember if I am 85 or 92.

I have lost all my friends but, thank God, I still have my driver’s license.

 

After a long busy and active summer I am now ready to begin writing my weekly blogs and I want to begin by expressing my anger at those in the media and political arena who are making it almost scandalous when a candidate for political office reaches their late 60’s and early 70’s and label them as old and question their ability to take on major responsibilities due to possible health problems.

My dear friends I am 87 years of age and I come from a family (both sides) in which most of my relatives lived—and some continue to do so actively busy and involved in life, into their late 80’s and 90’s.

In fact many of the world’s great business and political leaders of both sexes made great contributions to society in their later years.

Let me share this experience with you: in 1956 the Automobile Industry celebrated its 50th anniversary. I was in my mid teens and the President of my high school Student Body. My school principle Bill Stirton, who later went on to be the Dean of the University of Michigan, was selected to head the auto industry’s 50th anniversary celebration which included a major parade down the main street of Detroit, Michigan.

Bill asked me to help him with the event and specifically wanted me to contact Henry Ford and Connie Mack, both in their late 80’s, to ask them to run a 5 mile foot race down the middle of Woodward Avenue to highlight the event. I did so and spent hours with them and never before had worked with two more mentally and physically exciting elderly persons. And by the way, like most persons of their age, both have experienced health issues during life’s journey, which never stopped them from being active and productive lives.

Every day of my life, as I speak to groups about my book “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” I meet active persons in their 70’s, 80’ ad 90’s who are as smart and active and sharper than many half their age.

 The idea that, because of a number, you are considered incapable of handing complex jobs and contributing to society is just plain nuts. I am known as the 87 year old 17 year old kid and I know that you are only old when you stop using your knowledge and experience to do great things.

Bernie Otis is a well known Food, Beverage & Laundry Consultant, Writer, Speaker and Author whose Best Selling Book “How to prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

Read my Blogs at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/ or reach me at 818-519-8347

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