A Special Message to My Loved Ones and Friends

A beautiful woman has a date with a very handsome man and they end up in the front seat of his car, with their arms around each other. They are enjoying it and he asks her if she would like to go in the backseat. She says “no”. He asks her again and again she says “no”. He becomes upset and asks her again “Why not”, and she replies “Because I want to stay up here with you.

 

Four years ago when I began to write what has since become my best-selling book, my book advisor told me, that if I was to have a successful launch, I needed to introduce pre-publication of the book by way of a blog.

Since I had no idea what a blog was, I began scouring the internet looking for blogs. I quickly found one written by my soon-to-be friend and author Glenn Van Ekeren, entitled “Enthused About life”.

The success of my blog, as well as my book, has been overwhelmingly great . I am pleased to not only express my appreciation to all of you, my readers, for making that happen, but at the same time wish to announce that today’s blog is #150 in the series and will be the last one until January 2017.

As I close out the year, let me share with you what I have learned from my four-year personal writing experience (I have written business books and articles for many years) which began in my 84th year and now extends going into number 88.

The number one lesson is that life never ends, even at death, so long as you have the mental ability to be aware of the opportunities that you have to do good, make amends for errors you may have made during the complex journey of life and help others, as well and share your knowledge and experiences with those who are coming up behind you.

For example, I have recently begun sharing my experiences with high school seniors and the reception has been overwhelming. This has not only injected a youthful feeling within me, but added to my strong desire to continue to be known as the 88 year old, 18 year old kid.

Also, by continuing to keep a high and active profile, I have been able to accomplish Lesson #2, establishing and actively retaining warm friendships made over the years, both personal and business related.

In the past 30 days, I have had numerous E-Mails and phone calls from persons I have known for up to 55 years. Many of them, who live nearby, are meeting me for lunch and dinner. Those who live at a distance communicate with me often. My friend Sean, with whom I did much business over the years, but with whom I had not spoken to in a number of years, read my blog and is joining me for lunch later this month.

A young mother, Christina, whose son has a serious physical disability, heard of my talk at the high School and invited me to breakfast where she shared the story of her son’s difficult life and her work helping other such youth.

Years ago, while heavily involved in the hotel restaurant industry, I had a warm relationship with Kim, a general contractor in Dallas. It has been years since we spoke-but again he is an ardent blog reader and called me few days ago.

It is clear to me that whatever number you carry as your age, it has nothing to do with what you can accomplish in life as you enjoy the journey.

And this morning, as I was completing this writing, my long time friend Bill, one of the hotel industry’s most prominent purchasing gurus, called to say hello. Life is about giving, doing and sharing and I cannot emphasize this enough; do not let your age stop you from participating in that process.

Finally, many of my readers, including my dear friends Ed and Joan, owners of the world famous custom candy firm Choclatique, whom I have not seen for years, send me comments, tips and other good information after each Blog they read. (I usually do not do commercials) but if you want to send some great candy gifts for the Holidays go to www.choclatique.com. YUM, YUM..

So, to all of those who read this message, I wish you and yours a most happy holiday season and a continuing happy year to come, filled with joy and urge you to find a way to heal long time family or friendship differences and bond with each other.

In the final analysis, we are all our brothers keepers, so don’t let age or other issues stop you from living your life.

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker and Community Leader. His Best Selling Book: “How to Prepare for Old Age” “Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” can be found on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Read his Blogs at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/ 

If you would like to have Bernie’s advice and help in finding the right facility for your needs contact him at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com. 818-519-8347. There is no cost involved. 

Bernie also recently wrote the History of the Restaurant Industry in the San Fernando Valley, for the Los Angeles Library Commission.

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A Tribute to the Caregivers of the World

 

November is Caregivers month. A time when we take pause to offer our praise and thanks to not only family members who give up their jobs, personal time and social activities to care for their loved ones, but also to total strangers, many of whom are immigrants – yes the much maligned persons who do so much good for so many sick persons in our society.

Who are these silent heroes who play such an important role
In caring for the sick and aging amongst us
And complain not to a soul
They come from every world country and never make a fuss

They are paid a lowly wage and have little job security
In fact they are often at the mercy of a sickly being
Who no longer has the mentality
To appreciate the kindness and care that they are receiving

Their English is not always great and they struggle to improve it
And at night some go to school to improve their care giving knowledge
While all the time doing all they can to give those in need of help the benefit
Of the things they learned as they worked their way through college

At times they have no time to properly eat and cannot take a break
Because of their patient’s medical emergencies
And sleeping on someone else’ sofa and/or chair is not so great
But does somewhat help to solve fatigue’s urgency

Because of their devotion and expertise
Caregivers are always ready to act quickly in any and all situations
And they calmly resolve health issues with relative ease
And with their management and the patient’s doctors they maintain communications

So please do understand and not take lightly the role of your caregiver
And be sure to be selective and treat them with respect
After all you have entrusted them with the life of one you revere
So help them to give you what it is you expect

                                                                 -Bernie Otis

 Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California. 

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging 

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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The Closet Built for Old Toys

There comes a time in our lives when we or a loved one, finds it wise and/or necessary to give up our independent living and find a community where we can live comfortably. One where we can either be semi-independent or have the help of others as we move towards the conclusion of our lives.

Sadly, all too often, individuals and their families wait until the need is urgent and there is a mad scramble to find the right facility and learn about what they are all about and make the right decision.

I know this because, like millions of others, it was not until my beloved Anna passed away that I found myself alone. Miles away from my family and with a physical impairment, I was forced to make a quick decision. I was advised to move into a Senior/Assisted Living Home. It was one of the best decisions I could have made.

Hopefully by reading my poem about what I call The Closet Built for Old Toys (which is what I jokingly call such facilities), you will have a view of what these senior communities are all about.

There are two things you must learn to accept no matter what choice you make:

1. The food, while acceptable, is designed to meet the dietary needs of Seniors and will not be like your home cooked version.
2. Like any change you make in life it takes a month, or so, to adjust to the change in your daily routine.

There exists in places like California an oasis called Leisure World’s Fairwinds
It was built as a haven for the aged otherwise affectionately referred to as “Old Toys”
The folks who reside in its beautiful buildings are like your loved ones who once freely smiled and grinned
But now many have lost much of their joy

They are forced to use walkers, canes and wheelchairs
To just get around
And to receive help from wonderful caregivers
To prevent injuries from falls to the ground

They come here from near and far and for different reasons as well
So as not be a burden to their children
And to find new friends their age and each has a story to tell.
As well as to go to parties and socialize every now and then

They eat, sleep and play games such as Pan, Mahjong and Bingo and talk political philosophy
As well as watch movies at night
Oh yes, just as most people in life they complain and have jealousies
When you get to know them you will find so many are very bright

There are services for the religious to attend
And the weekly sing alongs are exciting and fun
Field trips for shoppers and diners alike are a daily trend
Trips to doctor’s appointments are made all day until done

The caregivers are warm, helpful and dedicated to the welfare of each of these fine souls
And happily address their resident’s every need
Being good and kind is their primary goal
Responding to each call for help with smiles and great speed

Such a home is needed as our lives keep being extended as our bodies continue wearing out
It takes much determination and patience to
Decide to change life style and give up your independence
As you turn your daily tasks over to others to do.

But despite all the big changes suddenly affecting your health and your body
When into Fairwinds you choose to move, to this “Closet for Old Toys”
And become friendly with all who live here you will soon join everybody
Who in their late years appreciate its many many joys

Bernie Otis

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker and Community Leader. His Best Selling Book: “How to Prepare for Old Age” “Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” can be found on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Read his Blogs at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

If you would like to have Bernie’s advice and help in finding the right facility for your needs contact him at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com. 818-519-8347. There is no cost involved.

Bernie also recently wrote the History of the Restaurant Industry in the San Fernando Valley, for the Los Angeles Library Commission

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Persistence – The key to A Happy Aging Life

Having trouble making new friends?

Well, these little bits of advice I got off a friendship card will certainly give you a few tips on making new friends. Keep these in mind as you go out and soon you will find lots of new TRUE friends. Good Luck!

  1. Don’t worry about knowing people, just make yourself worth knowing.
  2. Be friendly with the folks you know. If it weren’t for them you would be a total stranger.
  3. Friends are those who speak to you after others don’t.
  4. The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail and not his tongue.
  5. The way to have friends is to be willing to lose some arguments.
  6. Deal with other’s faults as gently as if they were your own.
  7. A friend is a person who can step on your shoes without messing your shine.
  8. You will never have a friend if you must have one without faults.
  9. You can make more friends by being interested in them than trying to have them be interested in you.
  10. A real friend is a person who, when you’ve made a fool of yourself, lets you forget it.
  11. A friend is a person who listens attentively while you say nothing.

… and most important… A FRIEND IS A TREASURE!

 

As I begin this blog, I would be remiss if I did not thank all of my readers who have been calling and writing messages asking if I am doing well, and when the next blog will be sent.

One would think that a man who is closing in on his 88th birthday, would have a lot of time on his hands and have no problem finding time to do what he loves to do—share his thoughts about the journey of life by writing Blogs.

The fact is, I have never been busier: redeeming the errors I have made in life by accomplishing the goals I have set out for myself, as my journey nears its completion.

If I have learned one thing over these past 6 years, and I want to stress this as strongly as I can, it is that if one is to achieve success and enjoy the journey of life, regardless of the mental or physical impairments they may have, it is important to have goals and objectives and to persevere in achieving them.

When my beloved Anna passed away 4 years ago, I was 84 years of age. I decided to write a book honoring her memory and at the same time send a message to the world that the journey of life was filled with happiness and joy, suffering and pain, and that by doing the right things as you take that journey, it can be filled with fun.

I was determined to demonstrate that, by being persistent and using the tools that we have been given, we could succeed. I am most pleased to report that my book is a huge success. I am out speaking to major organizations about it several times a week, my story and the book are being featured in major national publications and I expect to have a major announcement about the book in the very near future.

I also found a way, even though I can no longer travel, to continue to share my knowledge of the food and beverage industry so that I could help others grow. As a result, I was able to help a major corporation design and build a multi-billion-dollar new facility which includes a major food & beverage facility.

My work as a trained Hospice Caregiver is continuing as I help terminally Ill individuals cope with their crisis. And my long time active membership in Rotary International, continues as I participate in the wonderful world and community projects of my Rotary Club of Woodland Hills, CA.

I also have just been asked to join the Board of Directors of the Glendale California International Film Festival and Book Festival.

And finally, as a resident of Fairwinds Assisted Living Center, a leisure care facility in the San Fernando Valley suburb of West Hills, California I do my part to help residents who have needs.

In case you missed my message it is simply this—–Life Only Ends When You Give Up Living It. Set Goals- And Be Persistent In Pursuing Them.

 

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker and Community Leader. His Best Selling Book: “How to Prepare for Old Age” “Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” can be found on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Read his Blogs at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 If you would like to have Bernie Speak to your Group contact him at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com

 Bernie also recently wrote the History of the Restaurant Industry in the San Fernando Valley, for the Los Angeles Library Commission

 

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Does Your Age Make You Old?

I’ve had two bypass surgeries, a hip replacement, new knees, fought prostate cancer and diabetes.

I am half blind, can’t hear anything quieter than a jet engine,

Take 40 different medicines that make me dizzy, winded and subject to blackouts.

I have bouts of dementia and bad circulation.

I hardly feel my hands and feet anymore.

I can’t remember if I am 85 or 92.

I have lost all my friends but, thank God, I still have my driver’s license.

 

After a long busy and active summer I am now ready to begin writing my weekly blogs and I want to begin by expressing my anger at those in the media and political arena who are making it almost scandalous when a candidate for political office reaches their late 60’s and early 70’s and label them as old and question their ability to take on major responsibilities due to possible health problems.

My dear friends I am 87 years of age and I come from a family (both sides) in which most of my relatives lived—and some continue to do so actively busy and involved in life, into their late 80’s and 90’s.

In fact many of the world’s great business and political leaders of both sexes made great contributions to society in their later years.

Let me share this experience with you: in 1956 the Automobile Industry celebrated its 50th anniversary. I was in my mid teens and the President of my high school Student Body. My school principle Bill Stirton, who later went on to be the Dean of the University of Michigan, was selected to head the auto industry’s 50th anniversary celebration which included a major parade down the main street of Detroit, Michigan.

Bill asked me to help him with the event and specifically wanted me to contact Henry Ford and Connie Mack, both in their late 80’s, to ask them to run a 5 mile foot race down the middle of Woodward Avenue to highlight the event. I did so and spent hours with them and never before had worked with two more mentally and physically exciting elderly persons. And by the way, like most persons of their age, both have experienced health issues during life’s journey, which never stopped them from being active and productive lives.

Every day of my life, as I speak to groups about my book “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” I meet active persons in their 70’s, 80’ ad 90’s who are as smart and active and sharper than many half their age.

 The idea that, because of a number, you are considered incapable of handing complex jobs and contributing to society is just plain nuts. I am known as the 87 year old 17 year old kid and I know that you are only old when you stop using your knowledge and experience to do great things.

Bernie Otis is a well known Food, Beverage & Laundry Consultant, Writer, Speaker and Author whose Best Selling Book “How to prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

Read my Blogs at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/ or reach me at 818-519-8347

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The Magic Bank Account

A message to all of my Friends

It has been a while since I last sent a blog and that is because I have been busy out speaking about my book , doing community service, visiting the sick and aging and doing research for my upcoming book:

“As I Grow Old I Want to Remain Young”

I hope you have a great summer and want you to know my blogs will be going out weekly throughout the summer months. All my best to you —-I am doing great and have some exciting things to soon report.

 

My Rotary Friend Neal Goldman sent this to me and I wanted to share it with my Blog Readers

THE AUTHOR IS NOT KNOWN.  IT WAS FOUND IN THE BILLFOLD OF COACH PAUL BEAR BRYANT, ALABAMA, AFTER HE DIED IN 1982.

Imagine that you had won the Following *PRIZE* in a contest: Each morning your bank would deposit $86,400 In your private account for your use.

However, this prize has Rules:

1. Everything that you didn’t spend during each day would be taken away from you.

2. You may not simply transfer money into some other account.

3. You may only spend it.

4. Each morning upon awakening, The bank opens your account with another $86,400 for that Day.

5. The bank can end the game without warning; at any time, it can say, Game Over!”  It can close the account and you will not receive a new one.

What would you personally Do? You would buy anything and everything you wanted right? Not only for yourself, but for all the people you love and care for. Even for people you don’t know, because you couldn’t possibly spend it all on yourself, right? You would try to spend every penny, and use it all, because you knew it would be replenished in the morning, right?

ACTUALLY, This GAME is REAL

Shocked ???………..YES! Each of us is already a winner Of this *PRIZE*…….We just can’t seem to see it.

The *PRIZE* is  TIME.

1. Each morning we awaken to Receive 86,400 seconds……As a gift of Life.

2. And when we go to sleep at night, any remaining time is not credited to us.

3. What we haven’t used up that day is forever lost.

4. Yesterday is forever gone.

5. Each morning the account is refilled, but the bank can dissolve your account at any time WITHOUT WARNING… So, what will YOU do with your 86,400 seconds? Those seconds are worth so much more than the same amount in dollars.

Think about it and remember to enjoy every second of your life, because time races by so much quicker than you think. So take care of yourself, be happy, love deeply and enjoy life! Here’s wishing you a wonderful and beautiful day.  Start spending…. “DON’T COMPLAIN ABOUT GROWING OLD!…………SOME PEOPLE DON’T GET THE PRIVILEGE!”

Bernie Otis

My best-selling book, How To Prepare for Old Age: Without Taking the Fun Out of Life is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble online.

 

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Putting Aging on the Back Burner

I recently picked a new primary care physician. After two visits and exhaustive lab tests, he said I was doing “fairly well” for my age.

A little concerned about that comment, I couldn’t resist asking him,” Do you think I’ll live to be 80?”

He asked, “Do you smoke tobacco or drink beer or wine?” “Oh no,” I replied. “I’m not doing drugs, either.” Then he asked, “Do you eat rib-eye steaks and barbecued ribs?” I said, “No, my other Doctor said that all red meat is very unhealthy.”

“Do you spend a lot of time in the sun, like playing golf, sailing, hiking, or bicycling?” He asked “No, I don’t,” I said.

He asked, “Do you gamble, drive fast cars, or have a lot of sex?” “No,” I said. “I don’t do any of those things.”

He looked at me and said, “Then why do you want to live to 80.”

 

As I continue to enjoy the fruits of my Best Selling Book “How to Prepare For Old Age—-Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” my inquisitive mind has been running at full speed and one day while driving to a speaking engagement I was struck with the idea of writing a sequel, but what would I call it???????

Then several days later a bolt of lightning struck me while I was speaking at a Kiwanis Club meeting where all of the guests were in their 70’s and 80’s. I watched and listened as they spoke of their active lives and the things they were doing, both as a Club and individually. Strangely, I never think of myself as being old because I am also so active and have little time to spend on such thoughts Ha! Ha!

So, as I said, I was struck by a bolt of lightning and the name for my sequel jumped into my brain —- Are you ready for this? “As I Grow Old I Want to Remain Young” I asked myself (we talk to each other a lot) “Self I said; why not share with others the kinds of things you and others like you have found exciting and the kinds of goals that inspire you and others to live an active life?”

 And so I began the process of researching stories about how persons have lived long and active lives and achieved great success as their bodies aged, but their minds stayed young. That is the story of my new, soon to be completed, writing and I wanted to be certain to warn you, my loyal readers of what the future has in store for you.

That is the Good News—Now the Bad News— (just kidding). Now that I have wet your appetite let me suggest that no matter your age, you can start staying young for the rest of your life while the bones slowly, having a mind of their own, keep whispering in your ears “Slow down you are getting old” Don’t you agree that that in itself is an accomplishment?

Seriously, it is never too early in life to think about where you want to be 3 months, 3 years, or more, from today. Yes, life’s circumstances change, but adapting to change is easy if you have given thought to what-ifs along the way.

When I was twenty four years old, married with a 6 month old son (the first of 3 children) I began to think seriously about my future life and career.  I came from a family where almost all of my elders i.e. aunts, uncles cousins lived very involved and active lives into their 90’s (both of my parents died at a young age) and I watched with admiration how gracefully they handled the aging process and wondered what I would do so that I could emulate them.

In the process I was introduced to an organization which intrigued me because it was a well known group which had members as young as early 20’s and others in their 90’s and all of them were committed to actively being involved in world, community and personal acts of goodness.

Somehow in the back of my mind there was a seed planted that told me that this is where my long life future belongs. I joined the Southfield, Michigan Rotary Club which was just forming and, but for a few years interlude when my career-related traveling prevented me from being involved, I enriched my life and stayed young and vibrant through my activities as a member, in a frequent leadership role and through the many friendships my membership has allowed me to make.

Please note: Over the years as I moved about in my career I have been a member of numerous Rotary Clubs including in Las Vegas where I served as President and now I am actively involved with the Rotary Club of Woodland Hills, California.

My dear friends, you too can find such an activity and more and extend your feelings of youth as the clock ticks.

Many thanks for being my loyal reader. I love all of you——keep your comments coming and read my books they are filled with valuable information about life.

Bernie Otis is a well known 87 year Writer, Speaker and Author. His Best Selling Book “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” is available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble as is his exciting Business Book  “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats—–And Other Things”

 

Bernie Can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com. If you have friends who you think would enjoy reading these blogs please send me their E-Mail address.

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The Loss of a Friend

Today’s Blog is a copy of a notice sent to me by my friend Judy Freier, which appeared last week in the London Times. It seems so appropriate to the current state of our society that I wanted to share it with you, my loyal readers.

“Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who
has been with us for many years.

No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were
long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He will be remembered as
having cultivated such valuable lessons as:

– Knowing when to come in out of the rain;
– Why the early bird gets the worm;
– Life isn’t always fair;
– And maybe it was my fault.

Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies (don’t spend
more than you can earn) and reliable strategies (adults, not children,
are in charge).

His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but
overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6-year-old boy
charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens
suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher
fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.

Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the
job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly
children.

It declined even further when schools were required to get parental
consent to administer sun lotion or an aspirin to a student; but could
not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have
an abortion.

Common Sense lost the will to live as the churches became businesses;
and criminals received better treatment than their victims.

Common Sense took a beating when you couldn’t defend yourself from a
burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault.

Common Sense finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to
realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in
her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement.

Common Sense was preceded in death,
-by his parents, Truth and Trust,
-by his wife, Discretion,
-by his daughter, Responsibility,
-and by his son, Reason.

He is survived by his 5 stepbrothers;
– I Know My Rights
– I Want It Now
– Someone Else Is To Blame
– I’m A Victim
– Pay me for Doing Nothing

Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone”

Bernie Otis is a well known writer, speaker and author whose newest bestselling book. “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life is available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble” Please note that the National response to this writing is so overwhelming that Bernie is in demand as a speaker almost daily.

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The Three Worst Words in the Dictionary

**A special note to my readers; On Saturday April 16, 2016 I will be a featured speaker at the Los Angeles Daily News—a major Los Angeles newspaper– Health Fair at the Sportsmen’s Lodge Hotel in Studio City California.**

 

Marvin, was in the hospital on his death bed. The family called Marvin’s Preacher to be with him in his final moments.

 As the Preacher stood by the bed, Marvin’s condition seemed to deteriorate, and Marvin motioned for someone to quickly pass him a pen and paper. The Preacher quickly got a pen and paper and lovingly handed it to Marvin. But before he had a chance to read the note, Marvin died.

 The Preacher feeling that now wasn’t the right time to read it put the note in his jacket pocket. It was at the funeral while speaking that the Preacher suddenly remembered the note. Reaching deep into his pocket the Preacher said “and you know what, I suddenly remembered that right before Marvin died he handed me a note, and knowing Marvin I’m sure it was something inspiring that we can all gain from. With that introduction the Preacher ripped out the note and opened it.

 The note said “HEY, YOU ARE STANDING ON MY OXYGEN TUBE!”

 

Whether You are listening to a political candidate, business executive, a parent advising their child, or a psychologist advising parents how to raise their children, almost without exception you will hear them using one or all of three words to emphasize the point they are trying to make. The three words I am referring to are FIGHT,  STRUGGLE  and HARD.

“I will fight for you”, “Life is a struggle” and “If you want to succeed you have to work hard”, are three statements that are time and time again used by all of those who are charged with helping to educate us about what it takes to survive the journey of life.

How very unfortunate that is. Instead of inspiring us those who use these phrases are in fact depressing their intended audience.

Do you really feel enthusiastic when a person who tells you that it takes a “fight” to accomplish something or would you feel more excited knowing that the individual promises to “WORK” for you.  Fighting suggests an adversarial contest between parties.  I suggest that our society would be so much better if we stopped fighting each other and begin to work together to solve problems.

How hopeful can you be when you are told that each day of your life will be a “struggle”? It seems to me that individuals are more inclined to be enthusiastic when approaching any situation that presents a “challenge”? Why would you want to tell a child that they are about to face a life filled with “struggles”?

And finally at 87 years of age I have had many successes and my share of failures, but my experience has taught me that success came not when I worked to the point of exhaustion, but when I worked “smart” lived a balanced life and treated each obstacle as a “challenge” that was resolved by using my knowledge and experience (smarts) to be a winner.

Given the many challenges we face in this chaotic world I suggest that we all need to work together to address the issues we face each day and find time to have fun as we use our smarts to achieve success.

Bernie Otis is a bestselling Writer, Author & Speaker, whose new Book; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” is available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble

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Three Most Essential Qualities of a Leader

Many years ago, when I was just entering my teens, I became enthralled by the writings of the late great poet, Edgar A. Gust who wrote for a major Detroit newspaper. His poem “They Said It Couldn’t Be Done” has been an inspiration to me all of my life and its message still rings true today, as I write this message.

Somebody said it couldn’t be done

Somebody said it couldn’t be done,
But he with a chuckle replied
That maybe it couldn’t, but he would be one
Who wouldn’t say, “Til he tried.”

So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin
On his face. If he worried he hid it,
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
That couldn’t be done, and he did it.

Somebody scoffed: “Oh, you’ll never do that:
At least no one ever has done it.”
But he took off his coat and he took off his hat
And the first thing he knew he’d begun it.

With the lift of his chin and a bit of a grin,
Without any doubting or quitting
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
That couldn’t be done, and he did it.

There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done,
There are thousands to prophesy failure:
There are thousands to point out to you, one by one,
The dangers that wait to assail you,

But just buckle right in with a bit of a grin
Then take off your coat and go to it:
Just start in to sing as you tackle the thing
That cannot be done, and you’ll do it.

It is frightening to watch the current political process in America and listen to the claims of those who are seeking to lead our Country in the coming years. Each candidate claims to have leadership qualities that make them the best choice for the job.

So let’s look at three of the most important qualities that a person must possess to be looked upon as a leader:

A good leader is a person who has the insight, time and patience that enables them to select, as part of their team, persons who can be trained to take that leader’s job, as well as the willingness to help those persons move on in their careers, even if it means losing them to a competitor.

  1. A good leader has the vision to take on challenges and see opportunities that others see as not possible to accomplish.
  2. Finally a good leader also has the ability to look at opportunities that others view as possible to accomplish, but for many reasons the leader recognizes hidden obstacles that will guarantee failure.

In simple terms a good leader knows the importance of choosing future leaders, sees the real opportunities that exist and recognizes how to avoid failure.

Bernard S. Otis is a well known Writer, Author and Speaker.  His new Best Selling Book “How to Prepare for Old Age—-Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” is available on Amazon and Barnes and Nobel. Read his Blogs at

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